Why is change so hard? You know what you need to do but can't seem to do it. You start off with all kinds of enthusiasm - you buy new running shoes, bypass the candy aisle, pick up boxes to organize your junk. But pretty soon those running shoes get lost in the bottom of your closet, your cupboards are full of Diet Coke again, and those boxes are now ADDING to the pile of junk that has taken over your garage.
Far sadder than not losing weight or getting organized, is when you can't keep your love promises. You swear you'll make more effort to meet NICE guys, passing up those bad boys you can spot a mile away. But the next thing you know, you're on the back of a motorcycle behind Mr. Hot Leather and you're just sure it will be different this time! Just as soon as you loan him the money he needs to get himself together... Or you insist that THIS is the year you'll give up trying to convert unavailable men - you KNOW you can't change them - it's their problem and you ARE loveable! But then you meet your dream man and he's separated...
Change is so hard because habits get hard-wired into the brain and take on a life of their own. This is why most of us live our lives on autopilot, doing the same things over and over, having the same inner dialogue going all the time, and thus repeating the same old patterns. Unless we make an intense effort to become conscious and AWAKE, we can expect things to be business as usual. But how do you wake up and STAY awake?
Get help! People make positive changes all the time, but they rarely do so by themselves. The best ways to support yourself are to have a coach or mentor, form a support group, and be accountable to others who want for you what you want for yourself.
Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of "Opening Love's Door: The Seven Lessons," and that Amazon #1 best seller, "The Ultimate Guide to Getting the Love You Want." Dr. Kirschner has helped thousands of singles and couples make their love dreams come true. She has so much experience helping people break through their negative, unconscious love patterns that she's come to believe that with the right support and training, almost anyone can quickly find love if they make it their top priority and break through dead-end dating patterns. So she's created the "Love in Ninety Days Boot Camp Course" in which she can take even the biggest loser in love and turn them into a mean, lean love machine.
So stop beating yourself up! Just find someone or something to help you get motivated.
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