Tender Moment

Those that we love don`t have to be like us!

My Sons

Two of my favorite Passions, are my two boys, now men mind you. They are my stability, they are the loves of my life. They are working on finding their natural path, and it is scary at times but that's what life is truly about. Stepping into the F.E.A.R will always take you to a new hieght in your life. I LOVE KYLE AND STEPHEN YOU ARE THE BEST!

Possibilities

The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person's determination.

Make today be your day

Get ready to make a fresh start and leave the past behind you. it is never to late to make a fresh start. It's a good time for determining who and what is truly important and essential to you and then focusing all your energies there. Just realize that other people might not fully understand all your concerns and frustrations as much as you might hope and expect they would.

Please remember that putting expections on other people will only lead to dissappointment, therefore you must concentrate on what is best for you. Do not say to yourself, "Well, if I do this, what will people think?" You must ask yourself, "If I do this, what will I think of it and how will I feel about it?" It's like when people go on a date, before they even get ready for the date, they think to themselves, "I Wonder what "He/she" will think of me if I wear this?" You are supposed to say to yourself, "If I wear this outfit, how will "I" feel in it, will I be comfortable wearing this kind of eye shadow?" ECT

So in general, always put the "I" in the question you are aking instead of the "he/she/they!

Experience

You know the old saying it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? Well it's true! With each relationship we learn more about ourselves and what we want. Try to remember that if you're feeling brokenhearted. It takes experience to grow!

Yourself at your Best

"The art of being yourself at your best is the art of unfolding your personality into the person you want to be...Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others."

Get what you Give

How many times, when dating the wrong person, have you thought, "I'm always giving, giving, giving but what do I get?" Or "I wish they would do (fill in the blank) for me?" If you've had a lifetime (or even one time) of dating the wrong person, my guess is a lot. The good news is, when you do find the right match, you'll get as much as you give. Now that's not to say that you're Love is guaranteed to be considerate or helpful around the house. What it means is that you'll be able to express your needs and get them met, as well as being open to what your partner needs.

When you're just not that into them - can be just as unfulfilling, because you're not participating in the relationship. A participatory relationship is one that shows promise. The same goes for your relationship with yourself. Get active about creating the life you want, and watch your energy and self-esteem increase tenfold!

LEARNING IS AN IMPORTANT STEP

Whatever is bringing you the most challenges in life. will help you discover your greatest strength. There's a lot of truth to the saying that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Hang in there.

New Goals

Do you aspire to reach a new goal -- either spiritually, emotionally or both. Explore ideas out of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to new opportunities even try yoga, meditation, even therapy. Keep an open mind and an open heart and more opportunities will come your way.

CHANGE- WHY IS IT SO HARD?

Why is change so hard? You know what you need to do but can't seem to do it. You start off with all kinds of enthusiasm - you buy new running shoes, bypass the candy aisle, pick up boxes to organize your junk. But pretty soon those running shoes get lost in the bottom of your closet, your cupboards are full of Diet Coke again, and those boxes are now ADDING to the pile of junk that has taken over your garage.

Far sadder than not losing weight or getting organized, is when you can't keep your love promises. You swear you'll make more effort to meet NICE guys, passing up those bad boys you can spot a mile away. But the next thing you know, you're on the back of a motorcycle behind Mr. Hot Leather and you're just sure it will be different this time! Just as soon as you loan him the money he needs to get himself together... Or you insist that THIS is the year you'll give up trying to convert unavailable men - you KNOW you can't change them - it's their problem and you ARE loveable! But then you meet your dream man and he's separated...

Change is so hard because habits get hard-wired into the brain and take on a life of their own. This is why most of us live our lives on autopilot, doing the same things over and over, having the same inner dialogue going all the time, and thus repeating the same old patterns. Unless we make an intense effort to become conscious and AWAKE, we can expect things to be business as usual. But how do you wake up and STAY awake?

Get help! People make positive changes all the time, but they rarely do so by themselves. The best ways to support yourself are to have a coach or mentor, form a support group, and be accountable to others who want for you what you want for yourself.

Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of "Opening Love's Door: The Seven Lessons," and that Amazon #1 best seller, "The Ultimate Guide to Getting the Love You Want." Dr. Kirschner has helped thousands of singles and couples make their love dreams come true. She has so much experience helping people break through their negative, unconscious love patterns that she's come to believe that with the right support and training, almost anyone can quickly find love if they make it their top priority and break through dead-end dating patterns. So she's created the "Love in Ninety Days Boot Camp Course" in which she can take even the biggest loser in love and turn them into a mean, lean love machine.

So stop beating yourself up! Just find someone or something to help you get motivated.

REASON, SEASON OR A LIFETIME?

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....

HAPPINESS

If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator

KEEP AN OPEN HEART

Do you aspire to reach new goals? Either Spiritual, Emotionally or both? Explore Ideas out of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to experience new opportunities like Yogo or Meditation even Therapy. Keep and open mind and an open heart and more opportunities will come your way.